Working as a tarot reader often means talking to people about their relationships. Do they like me? Do we have a future together? Should I break it off? These are the most common questions. My intuition kicks in the moment the inquiry comes in, however, as a reader I realize its important to actually wait until the time of the reading to read the energy, because like a relationship, reading someone's energy needs time to breathe.
By the end of nearly every reading where someone is concerned with a relationship, not giving one's self time and energy to breathe becomes apparent. After speaking to hundreds of people over the years, by far, I can say that people often don't give themselves enough time to know how they feel. That's the thing about love, we are so charged with adoration, desire, and expectation, they ride roughshod over every other thought and feeling we have.
If you are in a particularly bad relationship then expectation sits front and center. It's all fear. Some of it is from experience, other times built up in our minds. The fear usually drives us with these questions:
How bad will it be if I leave?
What if I stuck it out a bit longer to make it work? Maybe they will change?
Love and relationships are supposed to be a challenge, right?
Other times, we don't give ourselves a chance. This is the other side of the coin with expectation. It prevents us from getting into anything in the first place. This can be equally challenging.
For a while I resisted talking to people about relationships. But it is really why we are all here. How we relate to one another through friendships, business, in civil discourse, and of course romantically. There is also the relationship between ourselves and the spiritual world. And finally, yet certainly not least, many take too long to really understand the relationship they have with themselves. Yes, even the narcissists. They are the least likely to delve into true self-reflection. When it comes to self-reflection, it is important to do this to better understand the romantic relationships we would all rather talk about and chase after. That brings us back to the ability to allow ourselves the space to better understand how we feel about the relationships we are in. Giving yourself the space to understand yourself, and you'll begin to understand your relationship with others.
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